Two years ago, I discovered my husbands affair of two years.? After two years of false reconcilations, lies, and heartache, I filed for divorce in June 2011.? The divorce was final in early November.
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It seems that the realization of the divorce has finally hit my ex husband.? He seems remorseful.? The other night he showed up at my home as I arrived home from work crying about how sorry he was for what he did to me and that he wanted to make it right.? He asked me to meet him for dinner this evening.
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I had up to now refused to meet him for dinner to talk.? Tonight, something seemed different so I agreed to meet w/ him.? He kept saying how sorry he was for everything he had done to me and for ruining our life together.? He said he wanted me to give him a chance to make it right.? To me, I want to give him the chance to do this, but I can never be in a relationship with him again.? The problem is that I love him so much still.? Even after allthe betrayal, I just cannot shut off my love for him.? I had to end the marriage though becauae he could not give up the affair.
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My question is - I want to forgive him, but how do I do this?? I can't forget what he did to me and the pain in still so fresh.? I love him so much that I just want to run to him and put my arms around him and say that everything will be okay even thought I know that I cannot trust him.
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How do I forgive him?
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How can he :"make it right?:? I think the answer is "he can't".? I? know I must forgive him.
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Is it possible for us to remain friends??? How can one be a friend if that person has violated trust so badly that it is impossible to believe anything that person says?
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And finally how does one go able restoring trust and maintaining appropriate boudaries.
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Any advice greatly appreciated.
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